mental-health
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LOSING SLEEP OVER SLEEP?
Ever since I began wearing an OURA ring, I’ve become obsessed with my sleep. It’s called orthosomnia: I must get a perfect sleep number each night, or I’m devastated. If I wake up groggy but my score is 90, I bolt out of bed! If I wake feeling great but my score is 75, I droop. (I… Read more
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REAL LOVE?
Call me old-fashioned, but this is how real love should make you feel—lifted. I spend many an hour working with couples of every color and gender. Often, they come to me too late, long after the irreparable damage has been done. There are those with contempt so thick you can’t cut it with a knife,… Read more
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MIND HOARDERS
I encountered this ‘ESTATE SALE’ on my morning walk. It was all unusable junk: lice-laden sofas, broken chairs, rusted weights from ancient barbells, cheap, bent silverware and clothes so stained and dog-haired, I’d be embarrassed to put them on a hangar. The nicest item was the white tent, which at first I mistook for a… Read more
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THE MOST DANGEROUS YEAR OF YOUR LIFE!
Recently, I came upon this article and realized that I’m less than decade away from the most dangerous year of my life! Who knew? And that cracked me up because we’re all only seconds away from danger from the moment we’re born. Frankly, it’s a wonder we get out of the womb in one piece. Yesterday, a van was… Read more
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“WATER, WATER EVERYWHERE AND NOT A DROP TO DRINK”–COLERIDGE
Recently, a water pipe burst under my kitchen sink causing a flood. I discovered this when I got up to pee in the middle of the night and began treading water. I spent the next 4 1/2 hours sloshing it outside with mops, mats and rags. Yesterday, a restoration team arrived, knocking out baseboards and… Read more
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I’D RATHER BE LONELY ALONE
The World Health Organization says we are presently experiencing a loneliness epidemic. Studies show that men spend seven hours in front of the TV for every hour they spend with someone outside their home. Women with pets spend more time caring for them than in face-to-face contact with companions of their own ilk. Teenagers have fewer ‘real’… Read more
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HOW YOU LOOK IS NOT HOW YOU ARE SEEN
Last week, I was feeling particularly lovely and vibrant, so I took some selfies in the garden to share with my kids. However, when I put on my glasses to look at them, I was stunned. Surely that weathered face and wrinkles didn’t belong to me? I started to delete them, then stopped myself. Since… Read more
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YOU OLD PEOPLE!
A couple times a week, I go to the gym to lift some light weights. (Apparently, bearing my own weight is not enough.) I do 3 sets, 8 reps each, on 5 machines. Each set takes about 30 seconds which means 15 minutes total, because I don’t dally. I’m alone in this endeavor, however. The vast majority here… Read more
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PJs AND BIRTHDAYS
When the first freeze of winter hit, I pulled out my flannel PJs and found only one mismatched pair, which had a long-gone, elastic waistband. They were given to me almost 20 years ago. I did the math and realized that my next pair may well outlive me. So, I purchased these, so I’ll look… Read more
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YOU GO FIRST
Remember in school when the teacher asked a question and you shrank down in your seat hoping he’d call on someone else? No one wanted to go first. Years later, at my very first dance, I quickly realized that waiting for someone to ask me could take forever. Life was too short to just stand… Read more
AGEFULLY AGING 