Advice
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WHAT’S YOUR EXCUSE?
Photo: These two don’t make excuses. They make points. There’s nothing wrong with making the occasional excuse. Excuses ease us out of awkward situations. When they become a way of life, it’s a problem. Such was the case with my client. He had an excuse for everything: “It sounds like I’m making excuses but it’s… Read more
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DO WHAT YOU CAN
My grandmother impressed upon me early to, “Always do what you can when you can do it.” While that advice has helped me accomplish much, it has also put me in some pretty awkward positions. Take today for example: There I was in the women’s bathroom at Whole Foods taking photos of a 40-something, dyed-blonde… Read more
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LOSING SLEEP OVER SLEEP?
Ever since I began wearing an OURA ring, I’ve become obsessed with my sleep. It’s called orthosomnia: I must get a perfect sleep number each night, or I’m devastated. If I wake up groggy but my score is 90, I bolt out of bed! If I wake feeling great but my score is 75, I droop. (I… Read more
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HOT UNDER THE COLLAR? TAKE OFF YOUR SHIRT!
Photo: I happened to look out a window when the Pocket Fire started in Sedona. Around age 11, I was on a tennis court with a neighborhood boy hitting balls around. It was summer and brutally hot. At one point, he took off his shirt and threw it on a chair, so I did too.… Read more
Advice, Commentary, Fire, health, Heat, Humor, Inspiration, life, Philosophy, summer, Wildfire, writing -
THE LIZARD, THE WITCH AND THE FALSE CONFESSION
Photo: This headless lizard was dropped by a hawk on the pavement in front of me as I entered the pool. Foreshadowing? Recently, I went to a new pool to swim laps. I saw that Lane #3 was empty, so I got in and began swimming. Halfway down, a big guy began powering straight at… Read more
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MIND HOARDERS
I encountered this ‘ESTATE SALE’ on my morning walk. It was all unusable junk: lice-laden sofas, broken chairs, rusted weights from ancient barbells, cheap, bent silverware and clothes so stained and dog-haired, I’d be embarrassed to put them on a hangar. The nicest item was the white tent, which at first I mistook for a… Read more
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OFFLOAD OFF ROAD
Not long ago, I was driving my youngest to the airport. She was in a hurry as is oft the case, so I put on the GPS: “Hey Siri,” I said, “directions to the airport.” My daughter was aghast. “How long have you lived here?” she demanded. “8 years.” “And you still don’t know the… Read more
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“WATER, WATER EVERYWHERE AND NOT A DROP TO DRINK”–COLERIDGE
Recently, a water pipe burst under my kitchen sink causing a flood. I discovered this when I got up to pee in the middle of the night and began treading water. I spent the next 4 1/2 hours sloshing it outside with mops, mats and rags. Yesterday, a restoration team arrived, knocking out baseboards and… Read more
Advice, anxiety, Commentary, Fire, Flood, health, Humor, Inspiration, life, mental-health, Philosophy, stress -
I’D RATHER BE LONELY ALONE
The World Health Organization says we are presently experiencing a loneliness epidemic. Studies show that men spend seven hours in front of the TV for every hour they spend with someone outside their home. Women with pets spend more time caring for them than in face-to-face contact with companions of their own ilk. Teenagers have fewer ‘real’… Read more
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GET OUT OF THE GOLDILOCKS ZONE!
Recently, a woman emailed me saying she loved my book about Alzheimer’s, but thought it needed ‘more attention.’ She said she was a marketer and had a 6-step plan that would boost “Kissing Tomatoes” in the ratings. She even quoted passages from the book along with snippets of actual reviews from my readers. I was… Read more
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