Advice
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RANDOM OR RIGGED?
My neighbor saw this hole in my tree and thought I drilled it. I explained a woodpecker made it. When he still looked at me quizzically, I replied, ‘I watched him do it.’ Sometimes the conclusions we draw have no connection to the truth. Franklin D. Roosevelt believed that if you said, ‘rabbit rabbit,’ the… Read more
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OUT OF THE SHADOWS INTO THE LIGHT
In this uncertain time, transparency-not invisibility-would be prudent. Yet, I feel I’m living among shadow people: those who share so little of themselves that they barely seem there as if I could pass my hand right through them. They are afraid to express their opinions, trust no one, monitor their doorbell cameras and phones, and remove their… Read more
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KICK UP YOUR HEELS!
They say the #1 fear most people have is public speaking, but I’m not sure that’s true. I think the deeper fear is of standing out in a crowd whether vocally or visually. Many let their fear of embarrassment overshadow their chance for joy. Drawing no attention to yourself elicits neither positive nor negative feedback. It can… Read more
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LOVE? OR SOMETHING LIKE IT?
This is my picture of unconditional love: a dog cruising down the highway with the window open, smiling and waving at everyone who passes. Love is arguably the only feeling that makes you, ‘able to leap tall buildings’ and get weak in the knees at the same time. But it’s ephemeral. Try to hold on too tightly… Read more
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PUT A RING ON IT
While the country swirls in chaos, I’ve gone Zen and purchased the Oura ring, pictured above. It watches over me silently. It knows how much I sleep, how good that sleep is and even reminds me when it’s time for bed. It also seems to know what I am doing at any given moment. Recently,… Read more
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WHAT DOESN’T KILL YOU
Photo: Courtesy of RandiNajacPhotography A friend of mine captured this roadrunner swallowing a rattlesnake. Her photo is both magnificent and shocking. It is hard for me to imagine those fangs going down his soft, feathery gullet without puncturing and poisoning him along the way. And yet, it did, leaving nary a scratch. It reminds me… Read more
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MY-O-PIC
Presently, 30% of the world is myopic. By 2050, almost 50% of us will be. That’s a staggering 5 billion people, half the world’s population! Myopia is a vision condition in which near objects appear clear, but objects further away look blurry. While one could apply this ‘short-sighted’ label to our thinking, it is an actual problem with our… Read more
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BROKEN HEART?
What does this look like to you? Me, in the tie-dyed shirt, having fun with longtime friends? If that’s your guess, you would be very wrong. I had just met the folks pictured here less than 15 minutes before this was taken. I wandered up to their pickleball court and before I could even ask to join them, they… Read more
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HIGH-FIVE!
I’m gonna let you in on a little secret of mine. Every morning when I see myself in the bathroom mirror, I smile and say, “Good morning, World! You’re lucky to have me one, more day.” I even encourage my clients to do it. When I started this habit several years ago, I was being… Read more
AGEFULLY AGING 