Advice
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GIDDY WITH GRATITUDE!
Recently, a new friend said to me at a party, “You come with a reputation. Everyone knows you and the reviews are all 5-star!” I felt so warm inside you’d have thought my heart was on fire. Isn’t it funny how two sentences can lift your spirits? It’s nice to imagine I might have that… Read more
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LIGHT IT UP
As a therapist, I’ve seen my share of suicides, psychotics, schizophrenics and other tortured souls: Men and women abusing each other or themselves. Couples with unrealistic expectations of their partners. Addicts unable to stop using drugs, eating food or watching porn and a populace that has seemingly lost its’ purpose. Recently, a teenager told me… Read more
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RANDOM OR RIGGED?
My neighbor saw this hole in my tree and thought I drilled it. I explained a woodpecker made it. When he still looked at me quizzically, I replied, ‘I watched him do it.’ Sometimes the conclusions we draw have no connection to the truth. Franklin D. Roosevelt believed that if you said, ‘rabbit rabbit,’ the… Read more
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TO DREAM PERCHANCE TO SLEEP
I used to think of sleep as ‘nothingness,’ and a waste of time. I never even napped for fear of what I might be missing. Now I’ve learned that I was missing a lot. I also thought 8 hours of sleep was just fine. However, after using my Oura sleep-tracker, I found I was only… Read more
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LOVE? OR SOMETHING LIKE IT?
This is my picture of unconditional love: a dog cruising down the highway with the window open, smiling and waving at everyone who passes. Love is arguably the only feeling that makes you, ‘able to leap tall buildings’ and get weak in the knees at the same time. But it’s ephemeral. Try to hold on too tightly… Read more
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PUT A RING ON IT
While the country swirls in chaos, I’ve gone Zen and purchased the Oura ring, pictured above. It watches over me silently. It knows how much I sleep, how good that sleep is and even reminds me when it’s time for bed. It also seems to know what I am doing at any given moment. Recently,… Read more
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MY-O-PIC
Presently, 30% of the world is myopic. By 2050, almost 50% of us will be. That’s a staggering 5 billion people, half the world’s population! Myopia is a vision condition in which near objects appear clear, but objects further away look blurry. While one could apply this ‘short-sighted’ label to our thinking, it is an actual problem with our… Read more
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MAY THE FORCE SPIN YOU
I listened to a podcast today about the physics of throwing a football. Considering I’ve never watched a whole game on TV and only attended a live game once, this is weird. However, I was spellbound. I learned that a perfectly thrown football has a tight spiral which forces it through the air faster. Eventually, it slows down… Read more
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HIGH-FIVE!
I’m gonna let you in on a little secret of mine. Every morning when I see myself in the bathroom mirror, I smile and say, “Good morning, World! You’re lucky to have me one, more day.” I even encourage my clients to do it. When I started this habit several years ago, I was being… Read more
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HIGHER THAN A KITE
Lately, I’ve had a plethora of couples come for counseling. When it comes to frustration with a partner, age, apparently has no limitation. I have couples who’ve been married from two to 40-plus years. Interestingly, all of them have these three things in common: 1. They think they know each other really well, but definitely do… Read more
AGEFULLY AGING 