Advice
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The Bark & The Bikini
I found hundreds of these tree bark striplings lying in the gutter, covered with mud. They had fallen from a Manzanita tree on a populated street in La Jolla. Countless people stepped on them as if they were garbage, not noticing them at all. But their paper-thin delicacy and colors captivated my eye. After rinsing… Read more
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JUSTICE SERVED?
On this Human Rights Day when we celebrate the humanity of all people, we continue to endure a leader who does not. Ours is a greedy, self-serving, bombastic child more focused on building a ballroom than providing for the citizenry. His vile tongue sets a demoralizing example. Never mind his wanton past and pardons for… Read more
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DO YOU SEE WHAT I SEE?
I saw this painting by Jorge Santos in a Santa Monica gallery recently and was absolutely captivated. Why? I’m not sure. Three people are packed together in odd juxtapositions with upside down dogs at their feet. They look spoiled, petulant and indolent. It’s riddled with hands and feet and flat out weird and I love… Read more
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RIGHT TIME? RIGHT NOW
They looked like the same pair when I slipped them on this morning in the dark garage. However, when I arrived in California and looked down, I was startled to see they didn’t match. Such are the joys of aging. When I get to the point where I look down and they still look the same? I… Read more
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LOVE IS BLIND
I just helped my 65-year-old client set up his first, online dating profile. Sadly, he stayed long past the expiration date of his marriage and is now starting over. Meanwhile, my youngest daughter has attended more weddings this year than I’ve been to in my lifetime. Statistically, 45% of those unions will end in divorce. That’s why… Read more
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stupid is smarts gone AWOL
“Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I’m not sure about the universe.” – Albert Einstein Sometimes I do something so dumb that even I am floored. Such was the case last night, when I decided to untangle string lights that a windstorm blew over the backyard wall. Despite my poor vision… Read more
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THE DOORWAY EFFECT
Yesterday, I was baking cookies and had the foresight to set the timer on my new iphone. 10 minutes later, there was a weird beeping noise which I did not recognize. So, I scoured the house wondering if one of the smoke detectors needed a new battery. Nope. I walked PAST the oven and tried… Read more
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HAVE I STAYED TOO LONG AT THE FAIR?
Vince Lombardi famously said, “Winners never quit, and quitters never win.” Turns out that’s not exactly true. Research shows we stay far, too long in our jobs, relationships and friendships and it doesn’t serve us well. It keeps us connected to people that no longer reflect who we are and keeps us away from those… Read more
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A DAY IN THE LIFE
When I tell you this fellow was the only person who smiled at me in the gym today, I mean the ONLY one. There were at least a hundred people there and not a word of conversation could be heard. Other than some clanging barbells and a few grunts, it was deadly silent! Almost every… Read more
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THE WORLD IS TOO MUCH WITH US
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AGEFULLY AGING 