A friend of mine in his 80’s pulled me aside to talk this morning. He lifted his pant leg to reveal a huge, gauze-covered dressing over his entire shin.
“I was caught in the middle of a dogfight,” he said. “The doctor can’t stitch it because there’s simply no skin. I have another bandage up here,” he said, indicating his thigh.
His skin is even thinner than mine and he’s also on blood thinners. I cringed, imagining the pain of that huge, open wound.
He then confided that his lady friend of late has decided to fly solo. After a long sigh, he simply said:
“My life is over. I’m in too much pain to move. I have no companionship and there’s nothing to look forward to. Really, nothing.”
For a moment, I was flummoxed. We’re pals. We’ve worked out together, gone to many a lunch, had tons of talks about love, life, books (he loves murder mysteries) and he has nothing to look forward to? I wanted to give him the pep talk that one normally gives when a friend is feeling down but no words came simply because I know how he feels. I really do. What could I say?
Finally, the words come to me tonight, as I ready for bed. So, I dash off this email. Maybe it will help him feel a little less alone.
I know you are in a lot of pain and that life isn’t fair. It’s hard getting older and not snapping back into step the way you once used to.
But I just want you to know how happy it makes me feel inside every time you wave at me when I come to the gym.
Want you to know how much I love your ‘joke of the day,’ cuz even when it’s not funny, it still makes me laugh.
Want you to know that I admire how you’ve kept yourself active and in shape all these years. That takes real strength and persistence.
Mostly, I just want you to know that my life is just a bit richer and warmer for having you in it… so hang in there.
“This, too, shall pass.”
Just got back from Bavaria last night. Time change gets me up by 4 am. So glad I read your blog this morning. Everyone needs a friend like you. Tell your friend to visit Bavaria, there are many octogenarians hiking, biking, and eating everywhere 🙂 Everyday is precious! That’s my mantra:) Hope to see you soon sweet friend!
Thank you, Helen, for shining light in the world, and for sharing this with us.
God Bless you, and all the other lights!
LOVELY LOVELY LOVELY
Sounds just like YOU!!!
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This is a very right on tale and one to remember…
This is very right on, and I like how you said it. We all need cheering up now and then.
I think we all go through periods like that. I also think that sometimes, there really ISN’T any reason to move forward because there is nothing to look forward to. That’s probably another conversation. As long as Garry and I are together, we are good. I think when one of us is not here, the other is unlikely to care much about life. I hope that isn’t true, but …