TIME FLIES SO WALK THE MINUTES WISELY

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Amazon is now selling a special clock just for those with Alzheimer’s. Apparently, the big selling point is that it spells out the day since those with dementia struggle with abbreviations. But here’s the thing. Just because you can say what time it is doesn’t mean that you’re ‘all there.’ It simply means that you can mimic a clock. It’s the minutes that really count in life, particularly the ones you spend making friends.

 A few days ago, I reunited with three women whom I first met when I was only 13. Our re-connection was seamless, as if little time had passed at all. However, having lived 50 more years since then, we now have much more to share with each other. Yes, time has changed, re-arranged, shrunk, expanded, puffed and wrinkled us in ways that we never dreamed possible at 13! That’s probably a good thing. One should feel fresh, fearless and free in youth but we tend to lose those qualities as both time and experience wear us down.

 That’s where friends come in. If you choose them wisely when you are young they will help keep you young as you age. They will remind you of your earlier self while encouraging your present one. They will forgive your youthful missteps and help you up the steps now that you are older. Most of all? If you choose friends with attributes that you wished you had yourself, you will receive the benefit of those very qualities albeit indirectly.

 My ‘old’ girlfriends still have the gifts that I once envied as a child, but now deeply admire. One was gregarious and accepted others just as they were even all those years ago. She still does. Another was an artist who could fill a blank page with beauty so breathtaking that you simply stared in awe. Today, she is a talented interior designer. The last had a rebellious, adventurous spirit that even now keeps her freshly on the edge of things au courante. So, dear readers, should I ever lose my mind, kindly put the faces of my friends in front of me, not a clock!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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5 thoughts on “TIME FLIES SO WALK THE MINUTES WISELY

  1. Dear Helen, I also think we become friends with people with whom we have something in common. I think you share the attributes you admire in these 3 friends: outgoingness, artistry (yours in music and writing), and an adventurous spirit. Often, when we connect with friends, we validate and nourish those shared attributes in them and in ourselves. And you have shown it stands the test of time. Xo, Your Cuz

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  2. Great title, and one I thoroughly admire! Thanks for sharing your experiences so nicely. I wish I could be in touch with some of the people I grew up with. You are most fortunate. Wishing you every joy, with gratitude, Tasha

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